Infidelity and money. Two delicate subjects. Separately, each spark provocative responses. Together: highly flammable. No one appreciates a messy relationship, nor messy money. People who gamble with infidelity put their finances into very shaky hands. Credit cards, hotels, trips, dinners, gifts and whatever else is splurged upon for a quick fix, or ongoing liaison; cost some bucks. And this is only a small […]
In the life of a marriage and family therapist, I’m sure there are many surprising aspects of relationships that are uncovered in the process of processing. Therapists hear a plethora of stories day in and day out: some common, others, not so much. Since infidelity isn’t one-size-fits all, there will undoubtedly be plenty of aha moments. I’ve had more than a few […]
“Infidelity is a hard sell”; my new tagline. I know it seems oxymoronic, but in reality…it’s not. The journey with my book, THE (IN)FIDELITY FACTOR: Points to Ponder Before You Cheat has been all about learning curves. And apparently, I needed to round those tricky curves in order to realize the full spectrum of what I was/am up against. […]
Which gender is most surprised by infidelity? Men or women? To be fair, we all have certain blind spots, but infidelity is in a category of its own. No one wants to be caught unawares: a double entendre of sorts. Hubby at home doesn’t want to be blindsided by his beloved’s indiscretions, nor does his beloved want […]
This is the main question I asked in a survey I conducted online and sent to my various social media sites. The answers available were: Yes, No, Not Sure. The other questions asked were: If so, why do you think infidelity is becoming normalized? Why do you think infidelity is not becoming normalized? Why are you unsure? […]
We hear so much about infidelity, but age-wise, who’s getting hit the hardest? Is there a certain generation that experiences betrayal more, or less? I receive Google Alerts regarding infidelity. The age range seems to run the gamut, however, I wanted to know what this looks like from a professional therapist’s point of view. So, I referred […]
I read an article that asked: Why is there gay conversion in the church, but not adultery conversion? For the record, I’m not a proponent of gay conversion. However, the author of the article, Abydenus, brings up a valid point. (Full article here: http://bit.ly/2mF3msz ). Even better: How about a side of aversion to go with your […]
I wondered this same question: indeed, why do people in seemingly happy alliances have the need to go outside for some extracurricular activity? I’ve personally been approached with this question several times, and frankly, I didn’t have an answer. Luckily, I do have Cathy Chambliss as my go-to therapist for all puzzling relationship related questions. Many have asked: […]
Today is President’s Day. Specifically, it’s a day meant to acknowledge George Washington’s birthday; it now honors and encompasses all presidents and their terms. Some of these men, however, did not honor the terms of their marriage. Even the highest office one can uphold in the United States has been affected by infidelity; several times over. It’s an […]
You might think thee day of love, flowers, and chocolates would encourage more warmth, affection and, well, love–umm…maybe not. There’s also the day before, and after, Cupid’s merry making. It seems Valentine’s Eve is a very busy day for those juggling a wife and a romantic bit on the side. Since you haven’t yet mastered […]