Questions for Cathy #10: Is Sex Truly A Physiological Need for Men?

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Here’s a question that many women have asked, or at least thought about: Do men really need sex, as in gotta have it? What happens when “headaches” becomes an issue? Fairytales aside, we can’t always be on the same page. I asked Cathy for clarification about this provocative subject.

My inquiry:

Is sex truly a physiological need for men?

Cathy:

No, men do not need sex. In other words, they will not die if they don’t have it. It is not like water or food. However, men do connect through being physical and often it is one of the number one ways that they feel love. Men have the hormone testosterone which causes them to feel sexual. The younger the man, usually, the higher testosterone levels. As men age, their  testosterone can decline and they may have less desire then when they are younger, but will still desire sex. Often times couples have different desires for sex. Men typically want it more often then women in a relationship. Couples need to talk openly about sex with each other outside of the bedroom and try to compromise on how much and how often they are open to having sex. The research says that even when women don’t want sex, they will enjoy sex once they engage in the process and relax. Sex is such a healthy wonderful way for couple’s to connect and there needs to be effective communication between them when there are sexual differences.

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We have our work cut out for us between female hormones and male testosterone; sometimes the twain definitely do not meet. In our youth it seems everything is high functioning for men and women, but as we age, there’s a shift. How we deal with the shift is crucial to the health of our relationship. I’ve heard before that men associate love with sex, and it was eye-opening at the time. I had never thought of it that way, but it’s real. It’s important to address our sexual preferences, otherwise infidelity could become a byproduct. It’s almost a given. Who needs the extra stress? Communication, understanding and nurtured desire play huge roles. A good tube of lube couldn’t hurt either!

*(Cathy Chambliss: 310-303-9132. Tell her I sent you.)

 

 

 

 

 

 

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