Thanks for stopping by! I’m excited to share my book, THE (IN)FIDELITY FACTOR: Points to Ponder Before You Cheat. Why? Because I think it’s prime time to address the widespread issue of infidelity gone wild, and the lack of personal accountability thereof. Infidelity can be prevented. My book presents legitimate reasons and stats for staying and not straying while in a committed relationship. It also offers up smart choices to make before you even decide to commit. Yes, isn’t it great. We have choices.
Truth is, I’ve experienced both sides of the infidelity fence and openly share my stories as genuine reference points. Not so pretty, as is the case with those who find themselves in this situation. It’s rare people come out of infidelity unscathed or unscarred. Even rarer for most to truly learn from their mistake. But, my hope is that just by skimming through the pages you’ll find items of interest that provoke thought, inspiration, and action. Ideally – your call to action.
In this time of the #MeToo movement, it’s even more important to build a healthy relationship. Individuals, families, friends, and enterprises have gone down in a blaze of gory. Many people accused of sexual harassment were also in a committed relationship. Infidelity played a secondary role, but it was a legitimate component nonetheless and deserves attention.
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If you’ve already read THE (IN)FIDELITY FACTOR, you have a better understanding of why I wrote it. If not, here’s a brief rundown; as implied, I’m a proponent of fidelity and accountability within a committed relationship (I don’t think I’m alone on this one). Such as, couples create their own unique partnership and honor the established parameters while committed. Committed is the operative word here. If a relationship bases itself on other criteria not involving commitment, so be it. Enjoy. But, if you have agreed to share strictly with each other, then do so. If there’s a change of heart or circumstance that dictates otherwise; a little common sense goes a long way. First of all–bring it to the table. Talk, then talk some more. Communication is key. If, no matter what, the relationship seems to have run its course, then respectfully work your way out of the union. That respect is as much geared toward yourself as it is your mate. In between discussion times, keep your chonies on. Please keep your body parts off other people’s property until you’ve civilly ended the primary relationship. The value of this alone can make or break everything.
Another reason I wrote the book is: I found the amount of adultery on the loose to be highly annoying. Sure, it makes for good copy, but enough already. Where’s the personal accountability–on all fronts? There’s plenty of finger-pointing, anger, hurt, etc., but who’s addressing the crux of the matter? Is “I’m sorry” good enough? Does an apology truly absolve or resolve anything? Does it help repair a shattered heart or replenish a depleted bank account? Mend a child’s psyche? What do you think?
So, there you have it in a very small nutshell. Of course, I’d like you to read my book and explore for yourself because quite frankly, I can use you! I encourage like-minded people to step forward. I want to bring awareness to this issue through word-of-mouth, positive examples, education, and the like. I’d like to eventually switch up legislation to reflect a more proactive approach to supporting familial bonds. I understand this is a huge Pandora’s box filled with drama, trauma, and backstories that aren’t easily unraveled, but we can take steps to start. Yes, we. Start the dialogue, lift your voice, lend an ear; any simple act can be of service to this matter.
Get reading. Get healthy. Get happy. Be the change-up!
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