Life has shifted. Most of us have been affected in one way or another by the coronavirus aka COVID-19. I have, peripherally. I went to the doctor for an unrelated issue (I’m fine) and coughed, an allergy cough that comes and goes whenever allergens have their way with my immune system. The doctor asked about said cough, I explained, then as a precaution, she proceeded to give me a mask and put one on herself. It was an odd feeling, very odd, but understandable. Interestingly enough, I coughed more because whatever was in the mask triggered a slight allergic reaction. Ironic, and one more thing to consider.
All this to say, these are confusing and challenging times, especially if you’ve chosen to self-isolate or have been quarantined. If it’s necessary to be in the same space as someone else for a predetermined length of time or if you’re dependent on someone for your needs, the lines of communication have to be wide open–healthy lines of communication. Annoyance, frustration, anger, anxiety, fear, etc. may be byproducts, given the unusual circumstance, but it’s how these emotions are managed that matter.
This virus offers us a chance to test our best selves whether that be with mates, children, neighbors, volunteers, or healthcare workers. Of course, we’d prefer to wish it away. It’s uncomfortable and unfathomable at best. We’re not sure when the end will be in sight, all the more reason to up our game.
Treat this as an opportunity to practice what I’ve been preaching: self-awareness, personal accountability, education, and growth. Infidelity’s nemeses, This isn’t meant to simplify the situation, but it is one way to approach it. Check-in with your behavior, take responsibility for negative actions, look into the causes, and make the necessary changes to create a harmonious home, and, inner life. Also, listen. Listen without interrupting. This is where deeper information makes itself known. You’d be surprised. These concepts apply to any situation, pandemics included.
We’re in this together, like it or not. It could be a long haul before our lives stabilize. Make your new normal as positive and livable as possible. Be understanding of yourself and others. Reflect on what’s most important, even when that pushy person takes the last of the tp., carton of eggs, loaf of bread, or pack of tortillas. (Not the tortillas!).
Above all, please be well.