“A very thoughtful and insightful look into a sensitive but all too common problem. This book weaves together research and discussion about infidelity with personal narrative to create a thought-provoking and sometimes humorous look at what goes on (or doesn’t) inside our heads before we commit an act of infidelity and what some of the repercussions could be.” ~ Kia
**The 10th Anniversary edition is very slightly modified. Video content remains the same.
THE (IN)FIDELITY FACTOR: Points to Ponder Before You Cheat highlights how fidelity can be a mainstay in a committed relationship, the benefits of healthy relationship-building, and what the consequences are if you choose infidelity. Hint: There are many.
Are you tired of the sensationalism of cheating and the accompanying negligent attitude? Does the quality of your relationship matter? Do you want respect, integrity, and sanity to remain intact? This book helps navigate the paths of confusion and delusion. Personal stories, commentary, surveys with everyday folk, and stats that speak for themselves are included. Examples of common problems and their solutions are offered. This book stimulates practical thought before you make an uninformed, life-changing decision.
We’re human. We sometimes get caught up in depressive and impulsive moments. THE (IN)FIDELITY FACTOR helps you take stock of your circumstance before dipping a toe (or other anatomical appendages) into the murky waters of infidelity. Quick fixes are seductive; not productive. Due diligence spares the crazy-making–and betrayed broken hearts.
Want answers? This book teaches you how to be your own. The gift of knowledge. You deserve it.
I’m a strong proponent of fidelity and accountability within a committed relationship. I don’t think I’m alone on this one. Committed is the operative word. Such as, couples create their own unique partnership and honor the established parameters they’ve created together. If you have agreed to share strictly with each other, then…do…so. If there’s a change of heart or circumstance that dictates otherwise; communication and common sense goes a very long way.
Open communication with (not at your partner) is a necessary and solid first step toward resolving problems. Bring issues to the table. Talk, then talk some more. In between discussions: Please keep your body parts off other people’s property until you’ve civilly ended the primary relationship. How this is approached can make or break everything. If the relationship seems to have run its course, then respectfully end the partnership. That respect is as much geared toward yourself as it is toward your mate.
The amount of adultery on the loose is annoying and troubling. Sure, it makes for titillating copy, but where’s the personal accountability–on all fronts? There’s plenty of finger-pointing, anger, hurt, etc., but who’s addressing the crux of the matter? Is “I’m sorry” good enough? Does an apology truly absolve or resolve anything? Does it help repair a shattered heart? Mend a child’s psyche? Your own self-esteem?
For these reasons, explore the book. Understand the healthier options. I encourage like-minded people to step forward. Let’s bring awareness to infidelity prevention through word-of-mouth, positive examples, education, and the like. On a grander scale: Why not switch up legislation to reflect a more proactive approach to supporting familial bonds? Yes, this is a huge Pandora’s box filled with drama, trauma, and backstories that aren’t easily unraveled, but–we can take steps to start. Yes, we. Start the dialogue, lift your voice, and lend an ear; any simple act can be of service to yourself and others.
“Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification but fidelity to a worthy purpose.”
~ Helen Keller
Personal story (book excerpt):
After a time I began questioning my husband’s sexuality and all else that made me uncomfortable or unhappy. That is what allowed for my indiscretion … He was so different from my husband …We were both feeling the effects of alcohol and started flirting heavily … It didn’t take long for us to get into my car and have sex. It was intoxicating, animal sex …The vows were now broken and I was going for it …
- 90 percent of persons in the United States are of the opinion that adultery is morally wrong.
- Per the question, “Should adultery be prosecuted in the courts?” 67 percent replied, “Yes” and 33 percent replied “No.”
- The possibility of children attempting suicide is doubled regarding children who are related to broken homes when compared with children from non-broken homes.