Infidelity statistics, hard statistics, are difficult to gather because of the many variables surrounding infidelity. It’s not just a simple jump in the hay which usually turns out to be anything but. There is a myriad of external influences, internal turmoil, backstories, relationship woes, stressors real or imagined, health conditions, gender differences, brain chemistry, anthropology, economics: the list goes on and on–and on. But, statistics are a reasonable guide. They’re a valuable resource to gauge a trend. Unfortunately, infidelity has been a forever trend with no real let-up in sight.
My mission is not to eradicate infidelity, that’s a lose-lose situation, rather, it’s a call to seek and find a better, much better, way to handle relationships, mindsets, insecurities and all else that brings one to the brink of potential chaos.
Statistics show where we are, how we got there and possibly where we may be headed. People are usually shocked by, and suspicious of, the numbers. I find that shocking, considering the fact that infidelity is everywhere at any given time. The numbers may seem inaccurate and higher than believed, but in reality, they’re probably on the low end due to the secrecy that stalks infidelity. A real numeric determination is challenging on these merits alone.
Just because adultery isn’t noticed in daily life and perceptions, certainly doesn’t mean it’s not happening. There’s plenty of sneaking around that isn’t accounted for. Imagine the numbers there. Tabloids, news headlines, celebrities, politicians, clergymen, family, friends, acquaintances, and strangers all contribute to the statistics pool. In the long run numbers may not really matter, but the fallout from betrayal should. One infidelity alone is disastrous enough.
Yes, it’s healthy to question stats, but even healthier to do better, be better.
Don’t like the percentages? Then insist upon not becoming one.